Genuinely Christian Education: Courageous

Every aspect of a Christian School should reflect a desire to know God and a desperate dependence on God.

If a Christian School is to be redemptive, then it does not have the luxury of sending children elsewhere to get their act together. As a parent of vulnerable, impressionable children, this truth frightens me. Because parents entrust their children with those who serve in a Christian School, wisdom and dependence on God’s transformative love is critical for all involved. A wise application of standards does not send the troubled child away, but it may place additional boundaries on the child and his parents. Mandatory attendance in a recovery program and periodic drug testing are reasonable expectations of a child who has struggled with substance abuse. Regular pastoral or professional Christian counseling may be necessary for another family. In other words, we do not eliminate standards and thus ignore real problems. In humble submission to God’s direction, we lovingly enact standards believing that God’s mercy is far reaching; his grace is sufficient and his love is redemptive.

Spiritual standards are imperative for teachers, administrators and parent leaders. Ongoing discipleship, consistent fellowship and group prayer are paramount if a Christian School is to remain genuinely Christian. The leadership must habitually seek God for direction, protection, and life-changing intervention for both individuals and the school as a whole. Only then is a school prepared to reach out to the family where none profess faith in Christ.

When the school does embrace the unbelieving family, it must cling tightly to the primary mission of every believer, “to make disciples.” A school should never court the unbeliever to obtain financial security, academic gains or prestige in the community. When a school is committed to reaching the lost, it must be equally committed to maintaining spiritually mature leadership who understand the magnitude of their task. Such leaders know they live in utter dependence on God.

The call to create a genuinely Christian School will demand approaches that are expensive, time-consuming, challenging and sometimes frightening. And yet, we believe it is imperative that the Christian community attempt to tackle God-sized tasks. In this manner, we distinguish ourselves from those who have no hope. As we courageously confront our fears, our pride and our failures, we shine as beacons through whom God can transform and challenge the values of our culture.

Genuinely Christian Education: Nurturing

 A Christian School should encourage excellence and celebrate the unique value of the individual.

Is it right to have admissions standards of any kind? Many schools have academic requirements such as a minimum grade point average or test score. Others have conduct standards, screening out the ill-behaved. Still others require that at least one parent profess faith in Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior. Standards are good and necessary when applied correctly. The issue of behavioral or spiritual standards is addressed in the next post.

If a school is to encourage a child to maximize his God-given strengths, then the school must address the needs of the academically gifted. While we do not believe a school should screen out the academically challenged, we do believe it is entirely appropriate to provide additional academic rigor for those who demonstrate exceptional competencies. Enriched curriculum should not be limited to an accelerated version of standard curriculum. Rather, an enriched curriculum should broaden the learning experience. In practical terms, the gifted tenth grade writer may learn how to write for publication and make actual article submissions (broaden) versus taking a twelfth grade English class (accelerate). The school may facilitate partnerships that would allow the gifted science student to intern in a research laboratory.

The same approach also applies to those gifted in non-academic areas. Growth opportunities should not be limited to those who first meet some academic standard. Just as the one who demonstrates academic competency will stretch and develop his gift, the apt musician or artisan should have permission to hone his skills. A broadened curriculum may include for the musician, training in music therapy; for the artisan, an apprenticeship with a skilled professional.

As students amass skills with a broader view, they cultivate a deeper understanding of the world they live in. They are prepared to make meaningful contributions to individuals and society as a whole. When this training is combined with a solid Biblical understanding of truth, they enter the adult world equipped to expand Christ’s kingdom.

One Family’s Story – Part 1

I have heard people say that vision begins when a sense of “oughtness” consumes you. For me, life changed in 1999. My daughter, who barely spoke English, began public kindergarten. I’ll never forget that first heart-wrenching parent’s night. Cute renditions of families and houses adorned the wall. Searching for Jane’s picture, anxiety began to consume me. My fears were soon justified when I saw the white paper covered with crayon scrawls, not unlike the result of a toddler’s first foray into the crayon box. Even with my most imaginative Picasso-esque perspective, I could not conjure up a house and family from that colorful mess. I knew then as I had known the day we brought her home from that Russian orphanage; my daughter was different. But that night the Crayola colors across the kindergarten wall shouted to me with emphatic urgency.

In desperation, we returned to the private Christian preschool/kindergarten where she had attended preschool the previous year. They had worked with Jane during her initial transition to the U.S., helping her undertake a new language. Maybe the caring hands of these wonderful Christian women will make all the difference, I thought. Her chances looked better here than in a public school classroom of 35 kindergartners. The half-day schedule allowed me to home-school the other half of the day. I was hopeful we could cover some lost ground by taking an all hands on deck approach to Jane’s education. A little progress was made, though the cost was exorbitant; the struggle excruciating.

Wary of progressing, but uncertain of the benefit of repeating kindergarten, we decided to move onto first grade. Not wanting to repeat the public school experience, we began to investigate Christian elementary schools. Some had waiting lists that pre-dated Jane’s adoption. Others, when learning of Jane’s struggles, subtly steered us away. Finally, the local Lutheran school welcomed us in. Our Lutheran School experience was short-lived, however. Though the teacher was kind and loving, it was clear that she had neither the bandwidth nor the expertise to deal with Jane’s learning challenges. Once again, we returned to homeschooling. Day after day, we walked through the fundamentals – phonics, math facts, and handwriting. Day after day, my frustration grew. I heard other homeschoolers go on about those wonderful aha moments when the light bulbs came on for their children. They beamed as they declared the sacrifice worthwhile.

For us, there were no aha moments, no light bulbs, no moments of confirmation. There was only repetition. Everyday felt like the first day of school. The painstaking gains on the previous day’s material seemed to evaporate overnight. My pediatrician told me my problem was nothing more than a language barrier. Once Jane grasped the English language, our problems would go away. I sought out other adoptive moms, only to sink deeper into despair as each gloated over her child’s rapid mastery of English. I felt hopeless and alone; a failure as a mother and a teacher.

To be continued..

Happy New Year!

At the beginning of each year, many of us take inventory of what we are doing and compare it to what we feel we should be doing with our time. We vow to add the “should do’s” to our schedules and eliminate some no-noes from our habits. This tradition of making New Year’s Resolutions stems from the belief that we have control over our choices.

Some have grown jaded through the years and sworn off the practice of making resolutions. “Why make myself feel guilty? I can’t change my circumstances anyway,” they say.

Others march forward. “This year will be different,” they decree. Yet statisticians claim only 15 percent of us keep our new year’s vows.

· Why are habits so difficult to change?

· Is it possible to have too many good priorities?

Selling Vacuum Cleaners, Part 2

So how do business people help the church work?

Imagine Joe, the new dairy manager. Right away he notices ice cream production is way down. He reads Ice Cream Monthly and he knows there’s no shortage of ice cream lovers. Joe rolls up his sleeves and gets to work. He increases milk orders by 20% and begins hiring new staff. There’s only one problem. Joe never discussed his ideas with the senior staff.

Three months earlier, the board of directors had voted to discontinue ice cream production. Although the product was popular, the company planned to position itself as the “healthy alternative” by producing soy products instead. The conversion would take place as soon as the last milk contract expired.

While such a scenario is preposterous to the average business person, similar scenes take place in churches. Business people get to work fixing problems which seem obvious without taking the time to understand why the problem exists or what are the ultimate goals of the church. Rather than helping ministerial staff, they undermine and disrupt pastoral leadership.

Why is this result so tragic? Business people who do understand and embrace a church’s goals are golden. They are the ones who put sails on vision. When they remember that God alone provides the wind propulsion for those sails, their skills become catalysts for rather than detractors from a church’s mission. So here’s my version of A Christian Business Leader’s Guide to Making a Sail:

  • Seek understanding. Before making an action plan, pray for open mindedness, humility and the courage to release any agenda. Ask questions, tough questions if necessary. But don’t disguise an assault as a question.
  • Become a follower even if you don’t understand. Pastors are human like the rest of us. The sting of past betrayals can create some hesitation to explain every decision. If you don’t understand, try following before fixing. Don’t turn off your brain. In fact, you should be more intellectually engaged than ever as you learn by doing. Believers working together clumsily are far more effective than those who evaluate from the sidelines.
  • Invest whole-heartedly or not at all. At some point, you will understand enough of the church’s vision to know if you can embrace it or not. If the answer is yes, roll up your sleeves and get to work, but talk as you go. “This is what I understand the goal to be and this is how I propose we address it.” Working with transparency requires a hefty dose of humility. When we communicate our intentions, we open ourselves to correction and criticism. Those who invest half-heartedly are people whom psychologists label passive-resistant. They create division in the church and render her ineffective. The Bible has harsh words for such people. It’s best to move to a congregation you can support whole-heartedly.

These are my guidelines. What are yours?

Selling Vacuum Cleaners, Part 1

The church has a problem. It’s not what you may think. No, I’m not talking about tumbling attendance rates, financial shortfalls, music wars or the staggering number of our adult children walking away from Christ. The real problem, according to many, is that these pastors are just so darn disorganized.

 “What we need,” say some, “is to look at the church like a business. Of course the church isn’t a business,” they’ll mutter under their breath, “but pastors could learn a thing or two from business people.” And it’s true. Business professionals are trained to develop systems that run efficiently and effectively. What church couldn’t benefit from a little more efficiency and effectiveness? Enter the era of the businessman-pastor.

I’ve visited a number of churches that seem to prefer business skills above preaching skills, spiritual disciplines and even theological training. Here’s the problem. Business people have two primary concerns: (1) develop a customer base; and (2) keep the customer base happy. Now developing a customer base should fit in nicely with the church’s mission. After all, if a church is doing its job (making disciples), then the church should grow (increased customer base).  But is the reverse also true? Does church growth mean the church is doing its job?

I could line my cabinets with the church advertisements I receive in the mail. What I find disturbing is the marketing strategy, “Every other church is boring, money-grubbing and unfriendly so come to ours. We’re different. We’re better.” That’s business for you-destroy the competition. Hmmm. Are we helping our cause?

Trouble is, the strategy works. Those dissatisfied with their current churches come seeking greener pastures. Our customer base increases with much greater speed than when we focus our energy on making disciples out of pagans. As one pastor said, “To ask a businessman to strategize in the area of evangelism is like asking him, ‘how do you sell vacuum cleaners to people with dirt floors?’.”

His answer is usually, “You don’t.” His goal is to find people with rugs. When translated to the Christian subculture, “churched” people have rugs, making them a softer market to sell our church.

As the customer base grows, it’s important to keep the customers happy. The businessman pastor must focus his efforts on internal ministries, services and of course the aesthetic preferences of his parishioners. He leads a church of religious consumers.

Most Christians would agree religious consumerism is not the goal. And yet, here we are. Religious consumers are as common as Costco members. Is the solution to keep business people out of ministry decisions? I hope not. As a business woman, I’d like to think I can contribute to my church. So how do business people support the church’s mission? THAT is the subject of my next post.

Read with Discernment

Walked into a Christian bookstore last week and noticed Blue Like Jazz (Donald Miller) had a tag sticking out from under it. Never one to pass on a sale, I strolled over to check it out. Instead of a 20% off deal, I found a warning label that said Read with Discernment. It read:

We want you to know that the author may have espoused thoughts, ideas, or concepts that could be considered inconsistent with historical evangelical theology.

I start looking around to see who else got nailed. I notice a few other titles I’d definitely consider “inconsistent with historical evangelical theology.” Funny thing though, none of these books sport a Read with Discernment sticker.

Now I’ve read Miller’s book and have to admit he’s not a precise theologian. His expressions are raw, which I concede might warrant a caution to readers accustomed to sanitized language. But I have to wonder – what is it that people find offensive about this book, really?

I don’t always agree with Miller’s conclusions or the ways he tries to flesh out his faith, but there’s one characteristic of this book that I can’t overlook. Miller writes with transparency and an attitude of repentance. The book is not instructional, but rather introspective. He draws us into a world of thought and emotion, not so foreign as many of us would like to pretend. As he lets us into his private musings, we see both the ugliness of the human condition and the enormity of God’s mercy. Perhaps, this reality is what some find offensive. Maybe the problem is not so much theology but that unpleasant issue of repentance.

After all, isn’t repentance what offended the Pharisees? They attacked Jesus for his failure to embrace their rules and traditions. His response was to forgive prostitutes and tax collectors. The Pharisees fought back with a murder plot.

People don’t like others telling them they’re wrong. But they really hate it when those they’ve condemned find restoration. We find such security in superiority. In the end, I guess we should read everything, including warning labels, with discernment.

~John

The Tyranny of Fear

In 1967, Charles Hummel wrote his classic, The Tyranny of the Urgent. He describes our tendency to forgo the important matters in life in favor of those that scream the loudest at the moment.

Recently I’ve experienced another type of tyranny – fear. One of this week’s “Word of the Day” entries from www.dictionary.com was abulia. Abulia is the loss or impairment of the ability to act or to make decisions. This week’s fear has given me a good dose of abulia.

You see five days ago, we placed our house on the market, the same housing market that’s in its worse slump in US history. The same market that has left houses sitting in my once “hot” neighborhood, unwanted, even after numerous price drops.

“Why now?” you might ask. Good question. Doesn’t seem like the sane thing to do. All I can say is that we felt is was the right thing to do. After much prayer, many tears and sleepless nights, we concluded that now is the best time for our family to move. I don’t know if we heard God correctly. Hence, my fear . . . . But I do know that God directs a moving ship (James 1:6). So we’ve taken a step. We’ll see what happens with our home sale.

Back to fear. In the five days our house has been subjected to public scrutiny, I’ve battled mind-numbing terror. What if I forgot to close the closet doors? What if I left the toothpaste out? What if they hate the color scheme? What if our house has something wrong with it? What if we didn’t fill out our seller disclosure statement correctly? What if it doesn’t sell? The ‘what if’ questions knot up my stomach and cloud my mind, leaving me with abulia.

Perhaps it’s a test of character, a test of faith, or an opportunity for God to show mercy on us. I don’t know. I do know that my fear is not from him (2 Timothy 1:7), so I must battle it in prayer. We’ll see what happens . . .

~Joyce

Seattle Blues

Seattle is in a bad mood. Yup, everywhere I go people are gruff, “nice spring we’re having, huh? grumble, grumble . . .” Maybe it was the rain, snow, sleet and hail that besieged us last Thursday and Friday . . .and Saturday . . .and Sunday. Maybe the lack of sunshine for the last eight months is finally taking its toll. Maybe it’s the fear of looming floods once the record snow pack begins to melt.

I must admit, I’m tired of feeling cold. I’ve had it with $300+ heating bills, muddy shoes and dirty cars. Where is my spring? My latest poll indicates the majority predict sunshine by July. Ugh!

Life is like that sometimes. The rain keeps falling, with no end in sight. On some level, we believe our situation will change, eventually. But we wonder if we’ll last that long. We may struggle to get out of bed and face yet another cold, gray day.

Funny thing happened today. I noticed some buds on my rhododendrons. No, they’re not quite ready to adorn my yard. But in this once dead-looking bush, I see signs of life. Perhaps, spring will show up before July after all.

Ultimately, life is about perseverance. Those of us who place our hope in Jesus Christ know we aren’t home yet. This earth will never offer complete contentment, absence of frustration or freedom from pain. Along the way however, God provides moments of bliss. Against the backdrop of our struggles emerges the beauty of his loving intervention.

Albert Einstein said, “There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” I choose the latter. I trust the sun rose even if I can’t see it behind the clouds. So I’ll arise and wait for the buds to bloom. I hope you find a moment of bliss today.

~Joyce

Courage or Recklessness?

Do you recall a person in your life whose constant attitude was, “I’ve already made up my mind; don’t confuse me with the facts”? Most of us have made a few bad decisions for lack of information. But have you ever become so committed to a course of action that you intentionally closed your mind to information that might persuade you against it? Perhaps it was the time you chose not to check a car’s reliability ratings because you really wanted the car. Or perhaps it was the time you avoided asking a sensitive question during a job interview. Sometimes it’s easier to assume now and to complain later when you find out you were wrong rather that to face reality up front.

Courage is not recklessness. Courage does not spawn momentum by ignoring potential pitfalls or obstacles. Courage welcomes information, especially the kind that might impact the direction or timing of a decision. Yet courage does not get stuck in “the paralysis of analysis.” You can never know enough to eliminate every danger; only God knows the future. So choose to move forward in spite of well-understood risks. Courage embraces reality with all its hazards, “eyes wide open”.

~John